A week ago, I was just back from a trip to Mexico with my family. I was very sick, sadly a common situation for me over the past few years. I spent several days resting on my couch with my dogs keeping me company. The three geriatric dachshunds usually hang out on the couch, each finding a way to be in direct proximity to me. Layla, my German Shepherd, takes up most of the other couch, which sits directly under the window, so she can lay with her head on her paws watching the street below for suspicious neighbors (they are all suspicious, she says). Cara, my 3 year old collie mix, spends most of her time about 5 inches from my left knee, wagging her tail tentatively and, whenever possible, nudging me. Pet me, pet me, pet me. It can be exhausting. A firm voice is required to encourage her to go nap on her bed or to join Layla and watch for intruders. Sometimes, though, I just ask her to sit and then pet her. Maybe I make space on the couch next to me, and she quietly curls up there for a snooze.
My fourth day home, I woke up coughing a little less. I could speak and not end up in bronchial spasms. I could breathe through my nose, both nostrils. I decided to get through the morning throat-clearing of nastiness and then go to work. When I went to let the dogs out in the back yard, I noticed Cara, usually a very cheerful, tail-wagging bundle of doggy smiles, was walking slow, and hanging her tail down between her back legs. She didn’t seem too interested in breakfast, either. I managed to get her to eat a biscuit or two, but she was decidedly devoid of enthusiasm. I was worried, but not terribly so. Dogs eat weird stuff, and sometimes they don’t feel that great after eating, say, half of a pine cone or a hunk of dirt. Still, I watched her while I was getting through the morning coughs. At one point, my dachshund, Cassidy, started barking at something in the front yard. Cara perked up and jumped up on the couch, staggering a little, then flopping onto her side. She looked at me. I patted the cushion next to me, which normally results in a blur of yellow dog, landing half in my lap. She didn’t move, she just started panting.
I was on the phone with the vet within five minutes. Something was very wrong with my dog. She wasn’t getting up to follow me while I threw on some clothes and jammed my feet into my sneakers. She wasn’t interested when I picked up my car keys. Ultimately, I had to pick her up and carry her to my car, lay her in the backseat. I drove to the nearest veterinary emergency clinic, and there had to pick her up again, hurrying her into the waiting room and checking in with the front desk. An hour later, I had a tentative diagnosis of anemia, and my dog was installed in a hospital cage for further tests. It was confirmed that she was very anemic, and needed a transfusion. I was advised that Cara likely had an autoimmune disease which was causing her to lyse her own red blood cells. I was told that such diseases could sometimes be managed, but not treated, and that dogs generally had about a 50/50 chance of getting through their first crisis. After that, about 30 – 75% died, despite treatment, within a year. I felt sure Cara would be one of the small percentage of dogs that pull through and live long lives on medication.
In the end, Cara spent three and a half days in the hospital. She received three transfusions and lots of immune-suppressing drugs. I visited her Thursday, Friday and Saturday. We sat in a room they furnish for visits, and I patted Cara continuously. I brought a favorite stuffed toy, gorilla, for her to have in her cage. She didn’t really want to play with it, but I tried to think it would make her more comfortable, anyway.
The first couple days, it seemed like Cara was just not going to improve. She didn’t get worse, but she didn’t get better. When her cell counts were high, she would eat, drink, even wag her tail. When they were low, she just lay in my lap, her heart fluttering, too weak to keep her eyes open. Saturday I spent hours at the nearby human pharmacies trying to get a new medication the vet wanted to try, then dropped the pills off and spent an hour with Cara in the visit room. She wagged her tail when she saw me, and walked somewhat energetically back to the room. She got up to greet the veterinarians when they came to bring water. She ate her medicine and a portion of her dinner. She did get tired quickly, and she was not the constantly playful, nudgy, exuberant girl I have grown to love over the past few years, but she was still sweet, gentle, friendly, and happy to get a long, long pat. Sunday, her numbers were still going down, but much less slowly. We even discussed having her come home for the night, though ultimately I decided to hold off, afraid of having her out of the veterinarian’s watchful eye. I did get her crate ready for her return, and started thinking about people who might come check on her during the workday when she was home for good.
No good phone calls come after midnight. So when my phone rang, I knew it was bad news, and I knew it was about Cara. Her numbers went down, further down than ever. She was really weak, and her heartbeat was too fast. The vet said that in cases like Cara’s, if there is not improvement after three transfusions, there probably will not be improvement at all. Even if she survived this crisis, it didn’t bode well for being able to manage the disease without seriously impairing Cara’s quality of life. I got up and got dressed. I brushed my teeth. I drove to the clinic and rang the overnight doorbell. I sat on the floor in the visiting room, now a different kind of room, waiting for Cara to arrive. She came in slowly, but wagged her tail when she saw me. Just a little, slow wag, but still, a wag. She came over and pressed her head against my shoulder, and I hugged her, scratched her, and helped her lie down in my lap. She lay there, her heart fluttering under my hand, and I patted her. She hardly looked up when people came and went from the room. The vet came in and patted her too, and then she gave her the injections. A little water to flush the catheter in her arm. A thick, white drug she pushed in slowly. The pink stuff that comes at the end. Little more than ten seconds, and my dog was just a body, blank eyes, limp limbs. The vet asked if I wanted to sit with her, but I didn’t. Cara was gone. This body on the ground was not my dog. I didn’t want to look at it.
I’ve lost other dogs, and have had to euthanize two of them. I have never lost a young dog, though. The grief is different. I keep thinking about all the things I thought I would do with her: more hiking, lots of walks, maybe therapy dog training. I thought about things I promised her would come one day when the old lady dachshunds had passed on, like Cara sleeping on the bed, Cara always getting the couch spot next to me, Cara getting more snuggles, more pats, so many that she would have no need to be so nudgy. But I am trying to think about the things that Cara did have, that I did have because of Cara. So these are the things I will write about, now.
I met Cara at the Georgia Renaissance Festival, where a rescue group had a few puppies and a few kittens for adoption. I knew right away that I was going to adopt her. I didn’t have any plans to get another dog, but something about her eyes just made it obvious that she was going to have to come home with me. She didn’t come that day, but I did fill out the forms and talk to her foster mom. One week later, she came home to stay.
Cara was the first dog I ever had that loved stuffed toys, as in, truly loved them. She bonded with them. She had certain toys that she kept with her all the time, no matter how decrepit they became. She also pinned my dachshunds sometimes if they came near one of the toys, and in fact, for the first few weeks Cara lived with me, I thought often that I had made a horrible mistake. Fortunately, this behavior stopped pretty quickly, and anyway, there were so many wonderful things about Cara that I stopped doubting my decision to adopt her. I took her to doggie daycare and she greeted everyone, every morning, with a happy smile, a giant tail wag, and sometimes a hug. She became the social facilitator dog, brought out to meet newbies and help them integrate into the bigger group. She learned fast, and though sometimes she seemed very aloof towards me, she did insist on sitting in my lap in the car. I allowed it, until she got too big for it to be at all safe. It took a canine seat belt attachment to get her used to sitting on the passenger side. She loved going on walks, hikes, or really anywhere. She greeted every creature with a grin and wagging tail, tolerated intense, long embraces from my young nephew, and slowly, she seemed to become attached to me. It took a long time. The first time I realized she had bonded to me was about a year after her adoption. I went to nap at my parents’ house, lay down on a sofa in a quiet room away from the other people, and Cara, though she really did love meeting and playing with new people, finally came over and lay down on the floor next to me. Though she did look up and wag her tail when other people came into view, she stayed there, with me, until I decided I was done resting. After that, I never needed a leash to get her to the car or feel secure she would not run off during a hike. She always followed me, and I guess I felt like I had finally been chosen.
The past year has been a little tough for me. I have been getting sick a lot, and missing a lot of work, and spending portions of my last two vacations too ill to leave my room. I lost some weight, then gained it back. I’ve been fighting off depression for the past few months. All of my dogs are special to me, and I know pet owners will understand what I mean when I say that they all have their unique contributions, none of them replaceable. Cara is the sunshine. I have had many dogs, known many dogs, loved many dogs, but I have never known any animal … or possibly any person … as happy as Cara. She smiled, as some dogs do, and she did it often. She wagged her tail, and she wagged it the direction dogs wag when they are truly being friendly. She knew not to jump on people, but sometimes she just had to rear up and hug a person, and she gave those hugs out to strangers, readily. She sat and cocked her ears and waited for her reward: a kind word, a pat on the head, a biscuit. She woke up happy and went to sleep happy and walked happy and ran happy. When something challenged her, like say another dog stealing her toys, she found a way around it: she just hid the toys from the other dog, and checked on them now and then when nobody was paying attention. When she was hungry and it wasn’t time for dinner, she silently pushed open the food bin latch with her nose and shoved her head under the lid. If I came into the area, she ran up smiling, wagging her tail, and sat, the epitome of well-behaved.
I’m going to miss that constant ray of light. I hardly knew how much I relied on it. It will be nice not to have to put heavy objects on the food bin (Layla doesn’t do naughty things, even when I can’t see, and the dachshunds can’t reach). It will be nice not to find paw prints on the edge of the kitchen counter (another silent strategy of Cara’s for finding illegal but delectable tidbits). I’d say it will be nice not to have constant wet, black nose on my laptop keyboard begging for attention, but in truth, I already miss it. I wish I’d never told her to go lay down and leave me alone. I wish I’d taken her on more walks, and cut that mat off from behind her ear, and let her sleep on the big bed.
Mostly, I miss the smiles.
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